They consider it the most intimate of human relationships, a gift from God, and a sacred institution.
Marriage to be ordained by God for the lifelong relationship between one man as husband and one woman as wife, Jesus maintained the importance and sacredness of lifelong marriage in his own teachings. God had created humanity as male and female, and that in marriage the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
While marriage is honored and affirmed among Christians and throughout the Bible, there is no suggestion that it is necessary for everyone. Single people who either have chosen to remain unmarried or who have lost their spouse for some reason are neither incomplete in Christ nor personal failures. The vocation to marriage is written in the very nature of man and woman as they came from the hand of the Creator. old God encountered his people with a covenant of love and fidelity, so our Savior, the spouse of the Church, now encounters Christian spouses through the sacrament of Matrimony. “Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another’s burdens” “ and to love one another with supernatural, tender, and fruitful love.
There is considerable disagreement among Christians as to the biblical way to define the roles of each marriage partner, and how each should interact in the family to create healthy family relationships and to please God. Roles in Christian marriages between opposite-sex couples challenge deep-rooted beliefs, teachings, and traditions—most dating from biblical days.
Christian egalitarianism proposes a completely equal partnership between men and women in both the family and in the church. Its proponents teach “the fundamental biblical principle of the equality of all human beings before God
Complementarianism prescribes a husband-headship male-dominant hierarchy. This view’s core beliefs call for a “husband’s loving, humble headship” and “the wife’s intelligent, willing submission” to his headship. Without necessarily using the term “obey”, they believe women have “different but complementary roles and responsibilities in marriage
Biblical patriarchy prescribes a strict male-dominant hierarchy. Their organization’s first tenet is that “God reveals Himself as masculine, not feminine. God is the eternal Father and the eternal Son, the Holy Spirit is also addressed as ‘He,’ and Jesus Christ is a male.” They consider the husband-father to be “sovereign” over “his” household—the family leader, provider, and protector. They call for a wife to be obedient to her “head”
which precedes advice for the three domestic relationships of the day, including slavery. It reads, “Submit to one another (‘mutual submission’) out of reverence for Christ”, wives to husbands, children to parents, and slaves to their master. Christian Egalitarians believe that full partnership in marriage is the most biblical view, producing the most intimate, wholesome, and reciprocally fulfilling marriages
They believe the biblical model for Christian marriages is therefore for the spouses to share equal responsibility within the family—not one over the other nor one under the other.
Those of the egalitarian persuasion point to the biblical instruction that all Christian believers, irrespective of gender, are to submit or be subject to one another in the fear of God or out of reverence for Christ. The word translated “help” or “helper” in until quite recently was generally understood to subordinate a wife to her husband. Thus, wives were often referred to as her husband’s “helpmate”. Next, from the word “help” were drawn inferences of authority/subjection distinctions between men and women. “Helper” was taken to mean that husband was boss and wife his domestic. As persons, husband and wife are of equal value. There is no priority of one spouse over the other. In truth, they are one. Among spouses it is possible to submit without love, but it is impossible to love without submitting mutually to each other.
The Complementarian view of marriage holds that while the husband and wife are of equal worth before God, husbands and wives are given different functions and responsibilities by God that are based on gender, and that male leadership is biblically ordained so that the husband is always the senior authority figure. They state they “observe with deep concern” “accompanying distortions or neglect of the glad harmony portrayed in Scripture between the intelligent, humble leadership of redeemed husbands and the loving, willing support of that leadership by redeemed wives”. They believe “the Bible presents a clear chain of authority—above all authority and power is God; God is the head of Christ. Then in descending order, Christ is the head of man, man is the head of woman, and parents are the head of their children. Complementation teach that God intended men to lead their wives as “heads” of the family. But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God are understood as meaning the wife is to be subject to her husband, if not unconditionally. a wife’s submission should never cause her to “follow her husband into sin.” The husband is the chief of the family and the head of the wife. The woman, because she is flesh of his flesh, and bone of his bone, must be subject to her husband and obey him.
The husband and wife are of equal worth before God, since both are created in God’s image. A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. He has the God-given responsibility to provide for, to protect, and to lead his family. A wife is to submit herself graciously to the servant leadership of her husband even as the church willingly submits to the headship of Christ. She, being in the image of God as is her husband and thus equal to him, has the God-given responsibility to respect her husband and to serve as his helper in managing the household and nurturing the next generation.
Patriarchy is based on authoritarianism complete obedience or subjection to male authority as opposed to individual freedom. Patriarchy gives preeminence to the male in essentially all matters of religion and culture. It explicitly deprives all women of social, political, and economic rights. The marriage relationship simply reinforced this dominance of women by men.
They believe such an attack includes the movement to “subvert the biblical model of the family, and redefine the very meaning of fatherhood and motherhood, masculinity, femininity, and the parent and child relationship, the act of marriage appears mainly to have consisted of the groom fetching the bride, although among the procession was a festive occasion, accompanied by music, dancing, and lights. To celebrate the marriage, week-long feasts were sometimes held.
The descriptions of the Bible suggest that she would be expected to perform tasks such as spinning, sewing, weaving, manufacture of clothing, fetching of water, baking of bread, and animal husbandry. wives were usually looked after with care, and bigamous men were expected to ensure that they give their first wife food, clothing, and sexual activity
The Bible clearly addresses marriage and divorce. Those in troubled marriages are encouraged to seek counseling and restoration because most divorces are neither necessary nor unavoidable. “Have you not read that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
In the decrees on marriage of the validity of marriage was made dependent upon the wedding taking place before a priest and two witnesses,although the lack of a requirement for parental consent ended a debate that had proceeded from the 12th century. In the case of a divorce, the right of the innocent party to marry again was denied so long as the other party was alive, even if the other party had committed adultery. marriage to be ordained by God for the union between a man and a woman. They see the primary purposes of this union as intimate companionship, rearing children and mutual support for both husband and wife to fulfill their life callings. Protestants generally approve of birth control and consider marital sexual pleasure to be a gift of God.
The external sign of the marriage is the placing of wedding crowns upon the heads of the couple, and their sharing in a “Common Cup” of wine. Once crowned, the couple walk a circle three times in a ceremonial “dance” in the middle of the church, while the choir intones a joyous three-part antiphonal hymn, “Dance